Stand Proud as a Farm Wife

We love Krista's perspective on agriculture and we are thrilled to bring more of her opinions to our women in ag out there on Today, Krista shares her thoughts on standing proud as a farm wife!

Growing up, I had dreams, so many dreams. My dream job changed on a regular basis. I wanted to be a teacher, I wanted to work in a law office, I wanted to do this and I wanted to do that. I had plans to move to the "big city," live in a studio apartment and work in an office setting. I had no intentions of getting married, having children and farming had NEVER crossed my mind.

As life choices often do, they steered me down a different path. I am now a wife, mother and dairy farmer. I am proud to be a dairy farmer's wife.

Over the past four years, I have met some of the most amazing women I have ever met in my life. These women are the wives of dairymen. They are proud to call themselves a wife. The dairymen are proud to call them their wife. To them, the term "wife" is not a looked down upon. It is something to be proud of. I personally never wanted to be a wife because I was pretty self-centered when I was young. It wasn't that I thought of wives as unequal, it was simply because I only wanted to have to care about myself. Yes, I know, super selfish person when I was younger.

Most of these women have been farming since before I was even thought of. Maybe they are "old fashioned" but I LOVE that about them. By meeting these women, I have aspired to be a better wife because of what they do on a regular basis. I am positive they wear capes under their everyday clothing.

Society is so obsessed with putting a "title" to everything these days. Not only does everything have a title, but some titles are looked down upon. So let me paint a picture of what these wives do on a daily basis using titles:

Chief, maid, nanny, teacher, accountant, secretary, taxi driver, Sunday school teacher, choir leader, Farm Bureau board member, co-op board member, farm owner, farm employee, tractor operator, calf raiser, milker and the list could continue. But you know what these women call themselves? They call themselves a wife and they say it with pride.

They are in marriages where each partner is equal. They are in a position where they are the helpmate of the man they love. They are the women you meet and when asked what they do for a living, they say dairy farmer. They are the women when signing their names, sign it right above owner/operator. They are the women that stands beside the dairyman and, to be honest, is crucial to his success.

Doing the dishes, laundry, sweeping the floor or even picking up dirty socks doesn't make you lesser of a person. You are just doing a small task in a bigger picture. The thing is you need clean clothes, clean dishes, etc… just because it is the wife that does those tasks doesn't mean she isn't an equal.

When I meet someone for the first time and they ask what we do for a living, I am proud to say that I am a dairy farmer. Or when asked who my husband is, I am proud to say that I am the farmer's wife. Why? Because I am proud of my farmer, I am proud that he is mine and gosh darn it,  I am proud to say that I am a wife. I do not have time to go down the list of all my titles… so I condensed them all into one, wife.

Maybe I am old fashioned, maybe I am out of touch with the rest of society but I am proud to be the farmer's wife. I will go on with the rest of my day; trying to keep up with dirty dishes, taking on the huge pile of clothes on the couch, changing dirty diapers, pay some bills, most likely end up running to town for supplies, jump on the tractor at least once, feed some calves and at the end of the day what I did was no less important than what my husband did.

Wear that wife title proud, be proud of the man you married and be proud to be his wife.

The Farmer's Wifee

Krista, aka the Farmer's Wifee, is a small town girl that grew up in a logging community in Eastern Washington and married a first generation dairy farmer. Together, she and her farmer have three amazing children that they raise on their dairy farm of 150 jerseys, Holsteins and crosses. If you want to learn more about Krista, check out her blog or find her on Facebook!

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